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Saturday, January 29, 2011

CARPE DIEM!


Carpe Diem!

It was morning and sometimes I like a change in pace when it comes to breakfast food, this morning it was my left over Subway sandwich.  I set the tasty, meat encrusted sandwich with ‘the works’ of veggies on it on the counter.  I also needed to get in the shower and found myself looking at the empty towel shelf frowning.  I headed down stairs to the laundry room to retrieve a towel, it, mind you, was no longer then a total of one minute in elapsed time from the moment I left the sandwich on the counter, retrieved the towels from the basement and returned. Yet, as I round the bend, there! There lay the thieving hound, formally innocent brown eyes now bulging with guilt, tail tucked between her quivering legs, the smell of the finest subway meats still on her breath. 

What? Amazing! That in a split second really, an animal can attack and effectively eat a large sandwich.  I also found it amazing that in spite of the fact that even though they must know they will never starve; that they receive bounteous servings of kibble, twice a day, every day, not to mention the sporadic generous helpings of treats periodically given when there is a leftover crumb on our plates after a meal; they still seem to think that their very existence relies on taking what they can, when they can or they will die. This is the pure brilliance of animals – they cannot help themselves.  They live in the moment. That sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do when you gotta do it! Carpe diem! Seize the day!

Perhaps all of us should live our lives a little more like my dogs and seize the day. Dogs don’t let their guilt or fears stop them from seizing the moment; they don’t have any limiting beliefs stopping them, and I admire this about them.  We as humans tend to ignore those moments of precious time we have, those fleeting moments because we are focusing on other things or what has to be done. We must embrace the possibilities that the present does hold. We need to seize the moment and make the most of every day.  To treasure every moment of life means living in the present moment, after all, the past is gone and the future is yet unknown. 

Are you missing out on the "right now" because you're moving too fast, dwelling in the past or worrying about the future? If you're not living in the moment you risk letting life pass you by. Start paying attention to your thoughts, your feelings and your surroundings at this very moment because it is the only moment that is guaranteed. This is all there is, this is all that counts: right now!

Here are six ways to help you to be in the moment:
  1. Slow down:  Life is short and we move too fast through it. Pause every now and then and take it all in. Stop and smell the roses.
  2. Really taste it: Instead of eating to satisfy a hunger, experience food as a pleasure. Whenever you put something in your mouth, savor it.
  3. Stop and observe: Notice the people and things around you as they are not how you wish them to be.
  4. Soften your focus:  getting caught up in details can be stressing.  Ask yourself, “Does it REALLY matter?”
  5. Forget the little things:  and trust me, they are all little things.
  6. Breathe:  so often when we are moving through our day we forget the first and foremost thing we have to do: breathe!  When we get upset we tend to clench our teeth and breathe very shallow while trying to force what’s not working to work. Try taking one long, deep breath. It will relax you and refocus you. It works!   
Another would be to just imagine yourself as a dog:

   

    Friday, November 26, 2010

    11/23/10 - AN EXPERIENCE TO REMEMBER

    I was hired to teach an on-line class for Rochester Community and Technical College this fall called Equine Therapy Concepts. This class covers all types of therapy utilizing horses such as Hippotherapy, Riding for the Handicapped, and Equine Assisted Learning and Psychotherapy.  Since I received my masters in the field of Human Development and Equine Assisted Life Coaching, the head of the Equine Science department thought i might know a little about the subject.  Well, I guess that useless master's Degree has finally come in handy!

    Part of the class requirements, since it is an on-line class was service learning - learning by volunteering at local therapy site/s in the area for a minimum of 10 hours.  This allows them the hands-on experience that is so important in the comprehension of this work.  However, one can talk Equine Assisted Learning (EAL) or Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP) to death and no one can comprehend the work until they experience it first hand.  Well, recently i met up with another person in this unique field, Ray Anschel from On Track For Life (www.ontrackforlife.com), and started a conversation.  Turns out, he has been helping another local woman, Kit Muellner, of Hope Ranch (www.hoperanchteam.com) who is a licensed social worker, and has been doing this work for years. They have been setting up 'mock' clients recently to teach her intern about the work and getting the experience.  This girl is also an equine science major at the college.  Well a few of my students and i went to her barn on Tuesday night to experience EAP.  All in all it turned out that I had the opportunity to help my students get a better understanding of the work and in turn helped another student get the experience she needed for her internship.  All with just the start of showing up for a demo at another friends house!  The fate of the universe!

    We are planning on talking soon, that maybe we can make this a part of the Equine Science program at the college.

    If you want to learn more about this incredible work that i have the pleasure of doing, please check out these sites:

    http://www.equineguidededucation.org/
    http://www.taoofequus.com/
    http://www.okcorralseries.com/
    http://adventuresinawareness.net/
    http://www.eahae.org/
    http://www.e3assoc.org/
    http://www.eagala.org/